Sunday, August 26, 2007

The Road Not Taken

Dreams
by Langston Hughes

Hold fast to dreams
For if dreams die
Life is a broken-winged bird
That cannot fly.

Hold fast to dreams
For when dreams go
Life is a barren field
Frozen with snow.



It truly is a scary feeling when one does not have dreams to hold on to. As you grow up and as the years pass by, ambitions and aspirations alter with the sands of time as well.

Ever since I can remember, I had always wanted to be a teacher. I was never one of those "I want to be a doctor and save lives when I grow up!" kids. Neither was I a "I want to be a lawyer and fight for justice, et cetera" kind of kid. I have always had the desire to make a difference and leave a mark on other people's lives. Then as I grew older, and my passion for books, reading and writing grew, aspirations of becoming a journalist or a writer of sorts formed in my mind. Then later on, the idea of Music as a career path suddenly became an option.

Somewhere along the way, I stopped clinging on to dreams and thought that I will simply take it "one step at a time". But even as it seems deceivingly prudent in taking that option, I realized I have 'lost' something as well. I flounder at times, not knowing exactly what I am working towards. I have desires and plans, but when there are no dreams to work towards, no main goal in sight, Life truly becomes that 'broken-winged bird / That cannot fly'.

I posted up this poem two years ago. Here it is again for convenience's sake.

The Road Not Taken
Robert Frost

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that, the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I marked the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.




It's funny how the meaning of a poem can change when you read it again, and see a different facet of it. "Way leads on to way" indeed; I can never return again to that place when I made my decision and chose this path. I often wondered about the last stanza - the poet tells the poem with a sigh.

Sure, he took "the one less traveled by", in the same way I chose to go down this unconventional path, and no doubt "that has made all the difference", but the sigh says a lot. Is it a sigh of relief? A sigh of regret? A sigh of sadness? Sorrow? Defeat? At this point in time, it seems more to me a sigh of heavy-heartedness and a tinge of regret that the poet can never return to the fork in the road again.

Although I may have decided to pursue my passion and interests, thoughts of "what-could-have-beens" haunt me sometimes, and I cannot help but wonder how will my future be affected had I chosen another path instead. I try not to care, but I can't help thinking if I've let myself or my parents down because I chose this "less prestigious" path instead.

"Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back."

There cannot be any more regrets. Because the moment I trod on the leaves of the "grassy" path which "wanted wear", there was no possibility of retracing my steps and making the leaves fresh again.

Saturday, August 18, 2007

Home is a few months away...

Some things never change. Was chatting with my sister on MSN:

masquerade . paper faces on parade said:
lady is such a greedy dog
. masquerade . paper faces on parade said:
like if u have food in your hand
. masquerade . paper faces on parade said:
and if u run around the house
. masquerade . paper faces on parade said:
no matter what
. masquerade . paper faces on parade said:
she will chase after u
. masquerade . paper faces on parade said:
just for the food
. masquerade . paper faces on parade said:
lol

Grace, my house-mate, and I often rue over the fact that we can't keep pets in the apartment. Grace actually had a cat, named Tiger, but Tiger was discovered by the apartment manager in the first month we moved in, so she had to go (after two warnings!). Tiger's in the care of one of Grace's friends now.

Seeing the cute and well-trained dogs on the streets of Melbourne makes you really want to have a pet dog. I mean, they're so well-trained that most of the dogs don't even need to be on leashes! They just follow their owners obediently, and I've seen cyclists with their dogs running behind, never too far off.

I miss my dog. =(

Wednesday, August 15, 2007

For the sake of updating.

I don't know what to type. Words aren't coming, and my brain is void of ideas.

Sigh.

Maybe in a few days' time, I'll have blog-worthy material to post up. (I've given up on Jerry ever coming back to blog. Maybe I should find a new blog partner and kick him off.)

Thursday, August 09, 2007

Two. Oh.

So yeah, before I begin. (Emphasis mine).

Jerry oh yeah...we have a blog
Jerry :P
connie` that's RIGHT, jerry, we DO have a blog
Jerry i forgot
connie` *ahem*
Jerry i've not seen it in ages
Jerry maybe i should post some fishing pictures up there
connie` exactly



Excellent idea, Jerry. I'm still waiting.


Anyway, I just really like to thank each and everyone of you who wished me on my birthday. I think I replied most SMSes and sent out a few emails, but it really means a lot to me that you guys remembered, especially with all of us in different places, in different parts of the world. So, thank you very much, from the depths of my heart.


Turning 20 isn't a huge thing for me - it's sort of a bittersweet feeling. I liken it to being stuck in this sort of limbo between two worlds. On one side is a world of innocence and childishness, the childhood and teenage years where I can still be carefree and not have to worry about 'life'. On the other is the world of adulthood where while I will be somewhat 'independent', responsibilities and "reality" awaits as well. 20 is the age when I'm no longer a 'teen' as such, but I'm not considered an adult (if we were to adhere to the unwritten rule that adulthood only begins at twenty-one).

My BSF (Bible Study Fellowship) group leader gave me a chocolate cake a few days before the first of August, which was really sweet of her. My housemates
made a lovely 'Happy 20th Birthday, Connie' sign and stuck it on the wall in the living room, and blew up balloons. They presented me with a really cute set of pajamas... (and here's where I reveal that, yes, I wear bright and colourful PJs to bed, and will remain a strict PJs person for the rest of my sleeping life). It's blue, with cute cat prints all over it. (They wanted to get the cow one, but it didn't have my size. The 'cow' thing is another story, which I shall not elaborate on for reasons which need not be mentioned.)

My cell group surprised me with a cake after prayer meet on the day, so that was really sweet. But honestly, it was just like any other Wednesday to me. The whole day was spent in uni, and it had been a really busy day, and by the time I reached home (late) on my birthday (after prayer meet, the cake, and then worship practice after), I was too exhausted to feel any joy or elation over the events of the day... aside from the fact that it was really quite ordinary if I took out all the 'birthday' bits.

If I had to sum up 'turning twenty', it'll just be this: bittersweet. So fast it seems, that 20 years of my life has sped by, and I'm here. Wasn't it only yesterday that we were still 17, and thinking that the twenties seemed so far off, and appeared to us practically ancient?